Preparing for the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony

Diocese’s Guidelines

Marriage in the Orthodox Church is not only a joyful celebration but a sacred covenant—an invitation for Christ Himself to dwell at the heart of your union. The following guidelines are designed to help couples prepare spiritually, emotionally, and practically for this lifelong journey in Christ. Below are the requirements set by the Diocese of Ohio, Michigan, and Indiana for all couples preparing for marriage within the diocese.

A. Spiritual Preparation (Required)

Every couple is expected to participate in 6–8 pre-marital counseling sessions with their priest or a designated pastoral counselor. These sessions help build a strong, faith-filled foundation and include topics such as:

  • The Orthodox theology of marriage
  • Communication and conflict resolution
  • Financial stewardship and shared responsibility
  • Intimacy, family roles, and spiritual life

Couples are also encouraged to:

  • Attend a marriage retreat or workshop hosted by the diocese or local parish
  • Build a mentorship relationship with a mature Orthodox couple

B. Medical & Fertility Recommendations (Strongly Encouraged)

As part of responsible preparation, couples are encouraged to complete:

  • Basic health screenings (blood type, Rh factor, STDs, etc.)
  • Genetic testing for inherited conditions
  • Optional fertility evaluation (handled with discretion and pastoral sensitivity)
Please note: clergy do not view medical results. Couples are encouraged to discuss findings privately with their physicians.

C. Psychological & Relationship Readiness

Healthy marriages begin with self-awareness and open communication. Couples are encouraged to complete a PREPARE/ENRICH or equivalent assessment.

  • The diocese will facilitate access to this tool
  • A trained professional will review the results with the couple to identify strengths and areas for growth

If either partner has a history of depression, anxiety, or trauma, a mental-health screening is recommended to provide appropriate support.

These tools are meant to equip and guide—not to judge or disqualify.

D. Inter-Christian Marriages

When one partner is non-Orthodox, the Church welcomes the opportunity to walk with both individuals in love and clarity.

  • Early discussion with the priest is essential
  • The non-Orthodox partner is encouraged to fully participate in parish life for at least one full liturgical year—attending liturgies, fasts, feasts, and Bible studies—to grow in understanding of Orthodox faith and practice

Reception into the Orthodox Church

Tradition Requirements
Protestant Baptism by triple immersion + Chrismation
Catholic Chrismation only
Apostolic Churches Determined by the bishop's discretion
  • No mixing of rites is permitted
  • Pastoral accommodations (e.g., prayers before or after the rite) may be discussed with the bishop
  • Catechism and spiritual mentorship are strongly encouraged

E. Civil Marriage License (Important Legal Requirement)

Before the sacrament can be performed, a valid state marriage license must be presented to the priest.

  • The couple must obtain a license from their county clerk's office before the wedding day
  • The priest must verify the license before the ceremony and sign it afterward
The Church cannot complete the sacrament of marriage without a valid civil license, as required by state law.

License validity periods:

  • Michigan: 33 days
  • Indiana & Ohio: 60 days

Please ensure your license is current and valid on the day of your ceremony.

F. Post-Marriage Support

Marriage is the beginning of a lifelong journey in Christ. Couples are encouraged to:

  • Continue regular spiritual mentorship and pastoral check-ins
  • Participate in confession and the Holy Eucharist regularly
  • Raise their children in the Orthodox faith, rooted in prayer, Scripture, and the life of the Church

A Pastoral Word

"Marriage is more than a wedding day—it is a holy journey. These steps are meant not as obstacles but as pathways of grace. The Church walks beside you with love, prayer, and guidance, helping you build a Christ-centered home that endures in faith and joy."

Need Assistance?

The Diocesan Family Ministry Team is here to support you.

You may contact us for:

  • Access to PREPARE/ENRICH assessments
  • Counselor or mentor couple referrals
  • Questions about canonical or pastoral requirements

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